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Friday, 29 Nov 1985

Vol. 362 No. 4

Report of Committee on Marriage Breakdown: Statements (Resumed).

Before the interruption I was endeavouring to put the record straight on the size of the problem. I referred to the 1983 Labour Force survey appendix 3 of which indicated that 24,300 were involved. The figure of 3,300 was deducted from that number to take account of those in long stay institutional care. We must also bear in mind that many unemployed husbands, because of lack of sufficient support for their families feign desertion because the benefits accruing in that position are greater than if they stayed as legitimate spouses. That is another instance of how the State is militating against families. Account must also be taken of husbands who work abroad on a long term basis and return home periodically during the year and of the fact that those in the 55 age group or over who are separated would not be anxious to remarry. If that number of people is taken out of the number identified in the survey it will be seen that we are speaking about a problem that has been magnified out of all proportion by the Divorce Action Group, the media and those who bandy about figures they do not have any backing for.

We must also take account of another figure revealed in that survey, of 1,302,000 married couples most of whom are struggling to remain faithful to their marriage bonds and are doing their best, against tremendous odds, to provide all that is expected of them. We are setting up a very expensive paraphernalia to deal with a problem that is not as great as we are led to believe. I do not wish to minimise the trauma involved or suggest that I do not have compassion for those who are in this predicament. I have compassion for them and I understand the trauma they face. It is because I have such concern that I want to save our people from the trauma that those who speak in favour of divorce appear to be well aware of.

I suggest that the palliative would become worse than the disease and what we would set out to remedy would encompass many more families. I do not wish to give the impression that there is not anything good in the report because there is. For instance, the recommendation that the property rights of a spouse should not be prejudiced by the fact that she gave up employment to attend to the duties in a home, but there is no recommendation to protect the property rights of a wife who remains resident in the jurisdiction if her husband leaves her, obtains a foreign divorce and goes through a form of marriage abroad with another woman. That woman while she remains in this jurisdiction is entitled to have her marriage upheld by the State and have her inheritance rights to property here maintained against claims by any connections her husband may have formed elsewhere.

Some people are pleased with the recommendations on judicial separation being made more easily available but I am not too happy about them. As its legal title implies divorce mensa et thoro is a form of divorce without the right to remarry. It terminates the conjugal rights and takes away the legal rights of the spouse to inherit a share of the estate of the other party. In a decree of separation the spouse may have to leave the family home. A greater danger is that judicial separation could open the flood gates to divorce. Judicial separation has been a necessary preliminary to obtaining divorce under British law since 1922. The legal grounds for separation were adultery, cruelty and unnatural practices. These grounds have been extended and now in the United Kingdom one marriage in three ends in divorce and it looks as if every second marriage soon will end like that. That is not the kind of society that we envisage for ourselves.

I am obliged to the committee that they made it clear that Catholic marriages are not subject to any legislation, either by the British parliament or by the Oireachtas, except under the 1972 Act concerning the age of marriage. There is also the interesting information that the activities of the Judiciary in the field of nullity have "created uncertainty and made it impossible for lawyers to advise couples of the exact parameters of the law of nullity." This means, according to the report, that it is impossible for some couples to ascertain, without court proceedings, whether they are validly married. Judicial developments have produced a degree of judicial subjectivity by which it appears that some judges are likely to interpret the law in this area in one way where other judges might interpret it in an entirely different manner.

There has been much talk in all the contributions about the role of the Catholic Church. It appears that somewhere along the line that Church has become the big bogeyman in our legislation. It is seen as a hindrance and a stumbling block with regard to much of it. I have already referred to an attempt to undermine the ethos of the Christian people. The autonomy of Catholic marriages is of major importance in the consideration of any proposal for divorce. Of the marriages in the Republic, 95 per cent are Catholic marriages which are not regulated by statue law but are made and celebrated according to the laws and conditions laid down by the Catholic Church. This autonomy comes down to us from the Reformation, when Irish Catholics refused to join in the new church established by the King. The occupying power at that time were not pleased with the recalcitrant Irish and in 1597 the Protestant Bishop of Waterford was reporting that in his diocese there was "no marriage agreeing with God's law and her Majesty's proceedings" and that marriages were being carried out with Masses in Catholic homes. The Irish Catholics won autonomy for their marriages at the price of a long struggle under Elizabeth, Cromwell and the Penal Laws. They never yielded to the jurisdiction of a civil power whose concept of marriage was contrary to their religion. That is something to which we might pay heed when the clamour rises to discard the standards which our ancestors preserved steadfastly against the persuasion and persecution which they suffered.

After Emancipation, when the British set their hand to the Major Marriages Act of 1844, with detailed provisions for Protestant, Jewish and other marriages, they specially excluded Catholic marriage by a section declaring that the Act did not apply to these. Catholic marriages were thus left in the hands of the Church, without any licence, permission or requirement being prescribed by civil law. Our low rate of marriage breakdown can be attributed to the fact that our Catholic marriages are under the control of the Catholic Church which emphasises that Catholic marriages is a sacrament and of its essence indissoluble and also to the fact that the State does not exercise any function in relation to the making of such a marriage which could suggest that the marriage is under any jurisdiction other than the religious jurisdiction of the Church. This is what differentiates our Catholic marriages from Catholic marriages in other countries, where the State has managed, by force or manoeuvring, to claim dominance and jurisdiction over the making of all marriages. That is something we must resist. The State has no place in interfering in Catholic marriage. Since this State represents 95 per cent of the population who contact Catholic marriages, however anxious we may be to accommodate those who are outside that persuasion, if we believe that we have an obligation to those who elect us, whatever help is given to those outside, it cannot be at the expense of Catholic marriage.

The Church should also have jurisdiction over any question arising regarding the validity or nullity of Catholic marriages. It is the authority that prescribes the rules and conditions that should have the right to decide whether that marriage was valid. In that area this House has an obligation to examine that question. It is my honest conviction that since the House has no jurisdiction or the State is not invited into a Catholic marriage, it cannot adjudicate if the Catholic Church says that that marriage was void. It is not the business of the State to interfere there. It should accept that as the legal position. It is appropriate to mention that the Church's approach is not a heartless one. It provides this facility where mistakes have genuinely been made. It is far more progressive in that area than the State now is. It would be very acceptable if the State took due process to divest itself of any interference in the question of nullity, but accepted what the Church says in these instances. To say that people who have obtained annulments and have entered into second marriages should be regarded as bigamists or the children of those marriages illegitimate, is unreasonable.

I am unimpressed by the pretence that one must accept divorce as a necessary condition for Irish unity. If and when the day for unity comes, it will be a simple matter to provide a federal arrangement which will allow the Unionists to retain their existing divorce laws or, if they so wish, in the areas in which they have a majority. The effects of divorce and the cost factor involved in Britain — and I am sure the same applies to Northern Ireland — may make them very glad when that time comes to allow some order to be imposed on the whole situation.

To those who say that out of compassion they feel they must allow the laws of divorce to be extended to this minority and that society would somehow be better off if that were to happen, I say that either they say this from an irresponsible ignorance of reality or are engaging in a sadistic sense of black humour. The world at large is a vast sociological laboratory where it can be easily discovered that divorce leads to the impoverishment of women and children. Everywhere it has been introduced they have been the victims. It is a proven economic disaster for the unfortunate women and children involved. We have seen so many horrific instances in the media recently of the abuse of little children, when women who are left alone cohabit with other men, their little children becoming the victims, being brutalised in the most horrific manner. I am told that what we hear and see in our media would constitute the tip of the iceberg only vis-à-vis what happens in England where one marriage in every three breaks down and, out of economic necessity, women form other liaisons, to their cost and sometimes to the cost of the lives of their children.

I appeal to the House to take from this report that which would meaningfully help families. God knows, there are many areas in which families need support and help. Successive Governments have reneged on the support that is the constitutional right of the family. I have been rather surprised that, rather than engage in an analysis of the report, the debate has had the tenor of what would appear to be the promotion of the theory of divorce.

I welcome the opportunity to contribute to this debate. I should like to begin, as have other speakers, by welcoming the report and complimenting the members of the committee who met over a long period of time, not just in the manner in which a number of other committees operate in this House, which may entail meetings once a week, a fortnight or whatever, depending on their terms of reference. I share an office with a member of the committee, Deputy M. Barry and, as far as I could ascertain, that committee met as often as twice or three times weekly.

Notice taken that 20 Members were not present; House counted and 20 Members being present,

It seems to be built into my record in this House that, each time I stand up to speak, I find myself with a much larger audience than most other Deputies. It happened to me on another occasion when there were distinguished visitors in the VIP gallery also.

I had just welcomed this report and passed a note of commendation to the members of the committee who spent many long hours dealing with its substance. The chairman of that committee, Deputy Willie O'Brien, admitted openly that, when he first became involved in the work of this committee, he was badly informed and had not got a great deal of knowledge about the legal situation here relating to marriages and marriage breakdown. He said he found the work of the committee immensely educational. He also felt that all its members had gained considerably from examining the almost 700 submissions received, from analysing them and endeavouring to draw from them some practical advice and recommendations to which this country could look so that it would maintain its present position, one that recognises the sacredness of marriage, the wish to retain that sacredness, and not have a situation obtain here like that in America where 50 per cent of all marriages end in divorce. There one can see large signs on shop fronts declaring that one can get a divorce in half an hour or an hour. I saw those for myself.

As was said when the motion was moved in this House for the establishment of the committee, that was the way in which this House should tackle the problems relating to marriage breakdown. Far too much attention has been paid in the media and in public debate to one small section of the report, that is, pages 71 to 80 under the chapter entitled Divorce—ten pages out of 125, in other words, approximately 8 per cent having been devoted to presenting an argument for divorce which took into account some of the submissions made. If one were to base one's opinion on this report on media comment and public debate, one could be forgiven for assuming that every second page of this report spoke about divorce when we know that was not the case. There are many good recommendations in this report which we should be dwelling on in this debate. This debate was tabled so that we, who were not members of that committee, could inform ourselves on their work. In doing so and at the end of examining this report we will all have a less blinkered view about marriage breakdown and marriage in general.

Sadly, the debate is polarising between those who think that Ireland should never have any form of divorce and those who feel just as strongly that the only thing to save Ireland and to save people involved in marriage breakdown is divorce. I submit that the answer is somewhere in the middle. There must be some form of recognition by both sides of the argument that there are more ways of tackling this problem than totally turning one's back on some form of civil divorce or, on the other hand, turning one's back on any other methods to try to prevent marriage breakdown. There has been a great deal of interest in this report and the public debate will be better informed because of the work of this Oireachtas Joint Committee.

A number of Deputies, especially Deputy Glenn, spoke about the arguments being made by groups such as the Divorce Action Group and those more openly calling for divorce. They are quoting figures which are very hard to back up. Paragraph 6.1 of the report states:

The Committee is acutely aware of the unavailability of comprehensive and detailed statistics on marriage breakdown in Ireland. The National Census in 1981 and the Labour Force Survey in 1983 contain limited data on this area, but the Committee has been unable to have access to any source which can delineate objectively the total number of persons whose marriages have broken down. Various submissions to the Committee contain statistics based on information available to the organisations concerned.

Obviously those making submissions to the committee had their own methods of calculating the numbers of people they felt were in need of some form of civil divorce. There is obviously a great deal of confusion.

The 1981 census included for the first time a question on marital status and the Labour Force Survey of 1983 contained a question on whether a person was ever married and, if so, their present marital status. This is an improvement on any previous census because obviously we are beginning to see the scale of the problem. However, the answer to these questions do not give the full picture. Others making submissions would use statistics derived from the number of people in receipt of the deserted wife's allowance or deserted wife's benefit. The Labour Force Survey of 1983 showed that there were approximately 8,000 women in receipt of the deserted wife's allowance and deserted wife's benefit. That would appear to indicate that only 16,000 people were affected by broken marriages, assuming that each of these women was married only once and did not have two broken marriages. One cannot pull that figure out of the hat and say that it represents the size of the problem. I welcome the recommendation in the report that some method be found as soon as possible to get the relevant figures so that we can know the real extent of the problem.

I have not the slightest doubt that every person walking down Grafton Street at this moment personally knows somebody who has been a partner in a broken marriage or in an unsatisfactory marital situation. The person could be a relative or a neighbour but I guarantee all the people in Grafton Street would know at least one person in that position. This must be of great relevance to this House. We cannot continue turning a blind eye to a social problem which affects people, irrespective of their religion.

It would be wrong of Deputies participating in this debate not to make it clear exactly where they stand on this issue. Some people might be trying to form a decision on whether a referendum should be held to change the Constitution and allow the Legislature to bring in a form of divorce which would be suitable to tackle our problems. I wholeheartedly support the call for a referendum. The time has come for us to face these problems head on, not hiding behind people such as Church leaders or quoting the lack of proper statistics. We know there is a problem and we cannot pretend otherwise. Members of a county council have only to look at the housing lists.

Notice taken that 20 Members were not present; House counted and 20 Members being present,

Deputy Owen to continue and I will allow her an extra four minutes.

Thank you for clarifying that I get "injury time". I am beginning to feel like those soccer players who stop what they are doing to hug and kiss which is supposed to give them a moment to collect their thoughts so that they can head down the field and score a goal. Being stopped in one's contribution on an issue as serious as this is very disconcerting and it is very difficult to pick up one's train of thought. However, I will endeavour to do so and I hope that I will make sense.

Before the call for the quorum I was indicating that people should say where they stand in regard to changing the Constitution and calling for a referendum. I made it quite clear that I thought we should have a referendum sooner rather than later. We cannot continue to pretend, irrespective of the unsatisfactory nature of statistics, that we do not have a problem here. The Constitution allows us to seek the people's opinion. If, as many people think a referendum would mean a defeat for the Government it would not reflect on their worthiness or sincerity. It would be an indication from the people that they do not want to change the Constitution. We do not necessarily have to hide our heads in shame at the prospect of a referendum in case we drop points in the opinion polls if we lose it. If the referendum is lost, the Taoiseach will know that he gave the people an opportunity to voice their opinion and he will take heed of what they said and will not force or coerce them into any legislation which is not wanted by them. Equally, even if the poll is carried by only 1 per cent, there will be an onus on legislators to heed the result and if that allows for this House to introduce legislation on divorce we have a responsibility, as elected representatives, to pass such legislation.

Although Deputy O'Leary's Bill had a short life, I am inclined to agree with his view that in a referendum it may also be necessary, because of the kind of country we are and because of the fears which people have expressed of the country turning into a kind of Las Vegas, to indicate in the referendum the circumstances in which divorce would be introduced. This would eliminate emotionalism, the screamers and the disgraceful antics we had in the recent referendum. We should deal with this issue in an unemotional manner and by putting this issue before an Oireachtas committee we have taken a responsible line. So far, there has been no serious emotionalism in the debate, which is very welcome.

I have listened to the arguments of people who are utterly opposed to any form of divorce who say that it will open the floodgates and that every third or fourth marriage will end in divorce. These arguments are insulting to the many thousands of happily married people who have no intention of being divorced from their spouses. They are irresponsible statements and are not factual because, despite the fact that divorce might become available here, people still recognise the sacredness of marriage and the value and benefit to society of the family unit. Long may that last and I think it will.

Instead of attempting to compare the effects which divorce might have on this country with America and Britain we should be looking more closely at Greece and Italy where there is a much higher percentage of Catholics and where figures show that the introduction of divorce has not led to massive breakdowns in marriage and demands for divorce. We must not compare ourselves to a polyglot society like the United States. The report contains statistics from the Eurostat Review 1973-1982 listing the numbers of marriages and divorces per 1,000 of the population. In Greece there were four divorces for every 1,000 marriages in 1973 and the number was the same for 1980. In Britain the figure was 140 divorces per 1,000 marriages in 1973 and it was 160 per 1,000 marriages in 1980. The figure is much higher in Britain than in Greece which has many thousands of Catholics. In Italy, the figure was 18 divorces per 1,000 marriages in 1973 and it dropped to 12 in 1980. The media should not create the impression that the floodgates will be opened if divorce is introduced.

However, we must make it quite clear that if divorce is introduced following a majority result in a referendum that there would be a very high number of divorces straight away because so many people have unsatisfactory marriages. I do not have to go much further than my own family for an example of this and I am sure that everybody has a problem in the family or knows of one. People are living in a kind of limbo which, for the most part, is often better for children but they are neither married, divorced or even separated because, in many cases, of the difficulty of finding the errant spouse, mostly men, in order to get a proper separation order. They are living in a twilight world of neither one thing nor the other. Those of us who have to house and look after them are aware of what they are going through. Many deserted or separated people who have children have a happier life than would be the case if they had stayed in the marital home where there was violence and other problems. Many of us are frightened or embarrassed to think about these problems but they cannot be ignored. A member of my own family has been living a happier life when separated than was the case when she was married. The blanket statement of some people that every child of every broken marriage suffers is not true. What is necessary is calm and reasoned argument.

Deputy Glenn spoke of the role of the Church and she criticised, perhaps rightly so in some instances, the outcry against the Church for stating their case. One of the two Fianna Fáil speakers who spoke today. Deputy Andrews, mentioned he was a member of the Forum. I was also a member and it was for me an enormously educational process. One of the highlights of the public sessions was the visit by the delegation from the Irish Episcopal Conference on Thursday, 9 February 1984. It was a high-powered delegation of Church and lay people. They sent a written submission that received considerable publicity and the attendance of the delegation at one of our meetings was of considerable benefit to us.

It is right that we should point out that the men and women who came to the Forum as part of that delegation were not unaware of the problems facing our people. In case there is the impression that those of us who favour a form of civil divorce are "libbers" and people who want a society where all moral standards have broken down, I should like to read an extract from the Forum meeting of 9 February 1984. Senator Robinson asked the following questions:

Could I come to your submission on marriage and the family where you state your conviction that the introduction of civil divorce would be a direct attack on the very institution of marriage and therefore on the institution of the family and accordingly on the basic fabric of society. That conviction is not shared by other Christian denominations who have made submissions both to the Forum and indeed, very recently, to the Oireachtas Committee on Marriage Breakdown. They have made it very clear that they do not share that apprehension or fear or conviction. How in those circumstances could you justify a constitutional prohibition on divorce in a new Ireland context?

Dr. O'Mahony: Could I just say straightaway—and I think this is very important—that we accept that many people who advocate divorce do so out of caring and humanitarian reasons because to my mind, a marital breakdown must be, perhaps, the greatest human pain. The death of love is a terrible tragedy, not only for the partners but also for the children. Even as a priest and a bishop one has many contacts with marital breakdown and even just to be touched by the pain, one realises the enormity of this situation.

Someone in this House said that Ministers are just TDs with titles. Bishops are just priests with titles. They deal with the pastoral care of their flock and whether they are called "bishop" or "father" they still have to deal with the daily problems of their parishioners. Dr. O'Mahony continued:

So we accept that those who are advocating divorce, many of them do so for caring, humanitarian reasons. Also, we would accept that many of those who advocate divorce are aware of the social evils that result from divorce. Nevertheless, at the same time—I think this should be taken into account because it is so sincere—we are deeply, deeply concerned and worried about the long-term effects of divorce on society, the weakening of marriage, the weakening of the family and so on. We are concerned, for example, about the introduction of divorce which could not be restricted simply because there is something in-built into divorce legislation that...

There is no doubt that what appeared to be the hardline attitude of the bishops in their written submission was softened when they spoke to the Forum members. As a result of their written submission they were given the image of unfeeling men, celibates who had no idea of the problems facing married couples, who had never fathered children themselves and thus could not understand the feeling of children and parents, but having listened to the delegation at the Forum there was no doubt that they were very aware of the dilemma facing people in a broken marriage or those who were separated. I think they accept that it is not Christian to have to live in a marriage that does not work.

The bishops are faced with a dilemma. When it was intimated last year that members of the Joint Committee on Marriage Breakdown intended to recommend in the report that a referendum be held, the bishops were silent at the beginning. Quite naturally they had to review their own position. The reaction of people to the statements made by the Church in respect of the previous referendum and, more recently the changes in family planning legislation, is something of which the bishops are aware. They know that some of the statements made have driven people away from the Church.

I support completely what Dr. Daly said at the public session of the Forum. He said the bishops have a duty to spell out for the people who follow their religion the moral implications of any actions taken by this Legislature. No one in this House would deny that but what happened recently went way beyond that in some instances. It went beyond just informing the conscience of people. I wish to quote what Dr. Daly said:

We have repeatedly declared that we in no way seek to have the moral teaching of the Catholic Church become the criterion of constitutional change or to have the principles of Catholic faith enshrined in civil law. What we have claimed, and what we must claim, is the right to fulfil our pastoral duty and our pastoral duty is to alert the consciences of Catholics to the moral consequences of any proposed piece of legislation and to the impact of that legislation on the moral quality of life in society while leaving to the legislators and to the electorate their freedom to act in accordance with their consciences.

I say to the bishops, to the Episcopal Conference, to all those who look after religious beliefs in Ireland, to remember what Dr. Daly said. That is what we seek to do here: to legislate for and to tackle the problems we come across. We come here with different religions, different prejudices, sometimes with very little expertise on many matters, but we seek to represent the people out there and to bring in laws that will improve the quality of life and reform laws that pose problems for society. We seek to pass laws that we can stand over in a Christian way, not specifically Protestant, Catholic, Jewish or Methodist, or any other religious laws. We bring in laws which have a Christian basis. We try to legislate for law and order in Ireland. I suggest that in this debate, and in the debate that may follow if we choose to hold a referendum, all of us should equip ourselves with the report of the debate on 9 February 1984, the public session of the committee.

There is a widespread impression that the committee's report has "divorce, divorce, divorce" written all over it. Only ten pages of the report referred to divorce. The other recommendations of the committee were advice to the country if we are to be able to tackle the problems of marriage breakdown. Chapter 10 deals with marriage and family life and I hope the appropriate Ministers will take cognisance of that recommendation and make available the money and the facilities to implement some if not all of the committee's report, sooner rather than later. Marriages are breaking down all around us. The stresses of life today are taking their toll. We have read of the case of the mother who abandoned her two children in O'Connell Street. For too long we in this Legislature have turned our backs on these problems. Indeed I suggest we have come of age when we hold debates of this kind, because at last we are recognising problems which we should have tackled long ago.

The first recommendation in the report deals with education. I have no doubt that education on preparation for marriage should begin early, even though 12 or 13-year-olds will not know that is what they are being educated for. It should give to young people respect for each other's opinion. When I was getting married in 1968 I and my future husband attended a pre-marriage course and in the first lecture we were told that the first thing we must appreciate is that a married couple are two separate people with individual opinions. So married couples must learn to respect each other's opinions and methods of doing things. Marriage without that kind of respect is likely to end up in trouble. That kind of respect should be taught to very young people.

Such education would give a sound basis for a working marriage, and I emphasise "working" because that is what one has to do all the time. The committee do not go into too much detail on the form of education for marriage, but I repeat that it should begin very early, in the primary school, although you cannot say to a nine or ten-year-old: "We are now preparing you for marriage in 14, 15, or 20 years." They must be taught that they are living in a society of diverse opinions, religions and colours, and that they must respect each other. They can build on that.

The second recommendation deals with counselling. I hope the appropriate Ministers will be able to take up this recommendation in particular. There are many organisations engaged in counselling before marriage and when they run into problems afterwards. That must be worked out and developed. People must be told that it is not a sin or a shame to seek counselling. Not being perfect, many of us need counselling and we should not stand in judgment on anybody who feels in need of it. Therefore, we must make a counselling service available in as many centres as possible, in health and community centres, without breaking confidentiality. Sadly, because of redundancies and consequent unemployment, marriages are under stress for reasons that were not there for many years. That problem can be tackled with counselling.

I endorse the recommendation to change the age of marriage to 18 years, coincidental with the legal age of majority. Sometimes there are reasons why people of 16 years should be allowed to marry, but 18 is a more mature age, and that should be considered seriously.

The committee made recommendations on mediation after marriage breakdown. A mediation service should be available. At the moment the anomalies in this area are mind boggling. If you have plenty of money and you have the sadness of a marriage breakdown you can go off and pay a good barrister, like the one sitting on the Front Bench at the moment. You can get your work done for you if you can pay him. You can then get a separation of some sort and continue to live peacefully. If you do not have money, there is free legal aid, but quite frankly that system is not satisfactory. In my clinics I have met not a great many but enough cases to make me realise that the free legal aid system is not meeting people's needs. They become very intimidated after even one visit to a solicitor because they do not understand the intricacies of the law relating to separation. Very often they give up hopelessly and decide they will stay the way they are rather than involve themselves in dividing the house and all the other things necessary. We must simplify the system. Very often they give up hopelessly and decide that it would be better to stay as they were than to go through the whole procedure of dividing proceeds from the family home, for instance, and so on. We must simplify the system. These people will already be under enormous stress and in many cases they do not understand the intricacies of the law. The State must recognise that this service is available to all and not only to those who have the money to pay for it and that it is available as simply and as cheaply as possible.

I spoke earlier about the position of the Church in this context but they are not homogenous in regard to how they deal with marriage breakdown either. A friend of mine who sought an annulment here and who spent 18 months going through the process of the application was not successful but later when she went to America and went through the same procedure there, using exactly the same evidence as she had used here, she was granted an annulment by the Catholic Church in the States. The anomalies that exist are translated into hardship and sadness for many people. I welcome the recommendation in the report that we should hold a referendum on the issue of divorce. We have a responsibility to ensure that the various anomalies are removed and I hope that all Members, irrespective of political affiliation, will recognise, as they must recognise from their constituency work, that the problem of marital breakdown is no longer one we can hide and pretend does not exist.

I welcome the opportunity of making a short contribution to this debate.

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Before that political interruptus I was about to say that for a long time I had considered sitting on the fence on this very sensitive political issue but I realise that I owe it to myself and to my constituents to say a few words on what, after unemployment, I perceive to be the greatest problem in our society, and that is the problem of marital breakdown. Although I tend to be conservative by nature I have to confess that on this issue I have liberal views. I am not a statistician and have no figures available. I am using my own gut instinct and my observation of life in my own neck of the woods and know that marital breakdown is very definitely in our midst. It is only we in the political world who have real knowledge of this problem because we meet so many people in our clinics but the average man in the street is not aware of these problems.

The time has come for Irish people to face up to the fact that we have come a long way from the 1937 vision of Eamon de Valera, a nice concept of comely maidens. We have come far from that concept because of our affluent society. Affluence has brought with it many social problems, the greatest of which is marital breakdown.

I commend the work done by Deputies on both sides of this House in preparing this extensive report on marital breakdown. It is a matter for some regret that there is not unanimity on this question. With no disrespect to Fianna Fáil brethren, it is a great pity that they do not accept the obvious fact that there are many people who are unhappily married in this country.

I support the need for a referendum and would like it to be conducted not on a political basis but with an all-party approach. It should not become a political football. The people should be given the right to vote as they see fit. There are many issues in Irish life which should be conducted by referenda but this is the outstanding one. I appeal to Fianna Fáil to be mature about this and not, as somebody said this morning, to wait in ambush on the Coalition partners but to come into the open. They are as aware as we are of the terrible marital problems confronting our people. I appeal to them to join with us in placing a referendum before the people.

The time has come for some limited form of divorce. Nobody wishes to see people being divorced and in an Utopian society there would not be any marital breakdown. Every young boy and girl who kneels before the altar rails wishes for an idyllic marriage, but misfortune and accidents occur, people are incompatible and many problems manifest themselves as the couple go through life. A boy and girl of 18 years or in their early twenties change and bear little resemblance to the man and woman of 40 years. When the first flush of romance flies out the window, as it does unfortunately quite quickly, many problems arise. I believe the main problems apart from incompatibility, are drinking and gambling, which sometimes place an intolerable financial strain on marriages.

The time has come to accept that there is a God of love as well as a God of wrath. For many decades, the Irish people have been fed on the notion that there is a God of wrath and we are answerable to him. There is a God of love. There is a God who will accept that in the modern world some people find they are incompatible and cannot live together. As Deputy Owen said and I agree with her, contrary to a commonly held belief, marriages should not be held together because of the children. I believe the reverse to be true. I believe the children of a broken or unhappy marriage benefit by being removed from the scene of friction. I have no doubt about that. That is a reason why some type of limited divorce should be introduced.

Nobody has the complete answer. This is something which has defied solution by Governments and Churches the world over.

As a further protest against the unparliamentary behaviour of Deputy Alan Shatter I am again calling for a quorum.

At 4.26 p.m. notice taken that 20 Members were not present; the quorum bells were rung.

At 4.30 p.m., pursuant to the Order of 28 November, 1985, the Dáil stood adjourned until 2.30 p.m. on Tuesday, 3 December 1985.

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