Before the debate on item No. 1 was adjourned I had talked about the part of the motion that dealt with the welcoming of the report of the joint committee. I had indicated that there was a general welcome for the report, that there was minor criticism and that it was proper that this minor criticism should be made in the House on receipt of this report. I had then talked about what was meant in the motion by having the widest possible debate. It should cover the nature of civil marriage in Ireland, it should cover the protection of marriage in Ireland, it should cover the question of non-divorce remedies for difficulties in marriage and it should grapple realistically with the problem of divorce as a solution to the irretrievable breakdown of marriage.
At the time of the adjournment I was discussing the question of the protection of marriage and, in particular, the appropriate preconditions for civil marriage and I was dealing in particular with the question of the age of marriage. On that point I had covered most of the points that had arisen during the debate. I only want to supplement that by echoing what was said by Senator Bulbulia and Senator Durcan, that there should be an immediate implementation of this legislation. If I interpret the debate a right number of Senators felt that this could have been dealt with previously in legislation in regard to the age of majority and that there is no excuse for any further delay.
Continuing on the line of the protection of marriage there was a general agreement in this debate in regard to the value of premarriage counselling that had already been instituted in this country and of the way in which this development could be extended. I do not think there was any dissenting voice here and I see a clear consensus arising from our debate.
There was emphasis in the debate on certain aspects of how this could best be solved. Senator Bulbulia mentioned a number of criteria, particularly that such premarriage counselling should be multidimensional in the fullest sense of the word. It should not be unduly concentrated on the question of denominational instruction but neither should it be unduly concentrated on the question of the economy of running a home nor unduly concentrated on the sexual aspects of marriage. We would all agree with this.
Senator Bulbulia mentioned also that premarriage counselling for a number of years ahead will have to supply for the deficiency in our educational system, to which I have referred, the fact that Irish education at all levels is highly deficient in educating people for modern life and in particular for educating people in the development of meaningful personal relationships.
There is not only the question of premarriage counselling; it is the question of marriage counselling in times of difficulty. Here there was a large measure of agreement among the Members of the Seanad who contributed to the debate.
Senator Catherine McGuinness drew attention to the results of the experience of marriage counsellors who gave evidence to the joint committee about the recurring factors that lead to difficulties in marriage such as the unduly high expectations that some people have of marriage. It seems in this regard that, in swinging away from what Senator Bulbulia called the mythical norm and Senator Ferris described as made marriages based on one and a half personalities where the expectation particularly on the part of a woman was quite low, we have, under the influence of ideas of romantic love resulting in marriage, swung too far in the other direction so that people now entering marriage, particularly people entering marriage at a relatively young age, have unduly high expectations.
Senator McGuinness also mentioned the problem within marriage of the question of a communication gap. This is a very real problem. None of us, if we are really honest about our own marriages, could stand up in this or in any other forum and say that in no way and at no time was there a communication gap in our marriage. I humbly confess that in my own marriage which I find satisfactory, and I trust my wife also finds to be satisfactory, there are communication gaps from time to time. Leading the life that I do as an academic and a politician, I can make the excuse that I am too tired to talk. We must recognise this problem of communication. It is a problem in all marriages. But there are some marriages in which this problem, which is met and hopefully surmounted in most marriages, can become pathological and lead ultimately to a complete withdrawal and become an accelerated process so that this gap in communication becomes wider and wider until it takes on the dimensions of the Grand Canyon.
Senator McGuinness also mentioned the question of the recurring factor of unsuitable choice. How one tackles this problem I do not know. Here we have a very real problem. Senator B. Ryan said that our social conditions have changed, that young people want to choose for themselves, that they are no longer inclined to listen to their parents who may be able to spot an inherent unsuitability. We live in an atmosphere in which parental advice, which at one time was paramount and all-decisive, now becomes a matter hardly to be considered at all.
These are the recurring factors summarised by Senator McGuinness in this debate. How do we counter them? The answer is, as Senator Bulbulia mentioned, that these problems are of such a nature that the only thing that will solve them is professional counselling of the highest quality. I am quite sure that by professional counselling she did not mean that this had to be a full time paid activity of the people concerned but rather that it is not a matter for inexperienced people, not a matter for untrained people. It is not a question where goodwill is enough. The territory that is involved here is so dangerous and so full of pitfalls that nobody but a person who has the three qualities of aptitude, of training and of experience could possibly cope with what is involved.
In summary, there has been support in the Seanad for the recommendation of paragraph 3.2.5 of the joint committee report in regard to the obligation of the State. The report defines the obligation of the State:
To ensure that there is an easily accessible and effective counselling service.
No matter how quickly we act, no matter how well conceived are the attempts to protect marriage, no matter how many resources can be found from somewhere to finance these efforts, there will, of course, remain a residium of cases where there is a breakdown of marriage. It may well be that the greatest efforts we can make in regard to the protection of marriage will do no more than to slow down the increase in this problem. We must look to the question of what are the remedies in regard to the position where all the preparatory education, all the pre-marriage counselling, all the post-marriage counselling is ineffective in preventing a breakdown of marriage. I dismiss as completely untenable the proposition that nullity and the extension of nullity can deal with this problem.